For those who have been following me on twitter, you will know that I’ve been binge watching Ted Talks these past few days.
There’s something about these talks that I love, they have such an amazing variety of stuff, some make you belly laugh, others leave you on the verge of tears but what they all have in common is that they make you think. I really love watching them.
I was watching one about small talk what you can check out here .
The purpose of this talk was about skipping the small talk and forming deep meaningful connections with people, something that I struggle with.
In honesty, I can’t stand small talk. I want to go for the deep stuff. I’m not to bothered what you had for dinner last night or what item of furniture your cat just broke (but if you have a video of said cat doing something stupid, then you’ve got my attention). I want to know you and that includes you guys, my small happy army of readers (You’re all awesome!!).
I want to know you.

So after watching this talk it was time for class, and by class I mean sit in a room with only half the class present as the supply tutor plays on the computer. Two of the guys were on the windowsill, myself and my friend were on our phones and one of the other guys was on the computers. As no one was talking I decided to ask the question that was discussed in the Ted Talk.
“What do you want to do before you die?”
One of them looked very taken back by the suddenness of the question, but hey it’s me, they should be used to it by now.
This sparked off a really nice conversation, one guy wanted to go skydiving before he died and others simply didn’t know. We even managed to ask the supply tutor what he though and he wanted to meet people from different cultures, an answer none of us was expecting.
It was quite amazing how much I found out about my classmates by just asking one question. I learned that the quietest guy in the class was so family orientated it was unreal, that if he was to die tomorrow he said he’d go to Burger King then spend the night with his family.
Another said that he’d buy a plane ticket and travel the world.

This got me thinking though.
What would happen if we just skip the small talk and just spoke?
So I’m going to leave you with a question today.
What would you do if you knew that you were going to die tomorrow?
If I knew I was going to die tomorrow, I’d want to cuddle my kids at home all day. That’s a scary question though. There would be so many things on my mind knowing it was my last day. But it’s definitely a great conversation starter!
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It is a really scary question, it makes you stop and think. I know I’d want to spend my time with the people closest to me aswell.
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I am always so afraid of small talk or asking random questions, I’ll have to challenge myself to try this.
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That’s great! Hope it goes well for you
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